The wizard of oz and other narcissists
The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family by Eleanor D. PaysonIt took me forever to read, The Wizard of Oz and other Narcissists, mostly because I was raised by a narcissist, and I had to stop reading the book whenever something I read reminded me of my own life experiences to go and write in my journal instead.
I’d read like, 3 pages of this book and then think, “Wholly Mackerel! I didn’t know that was narcissistic behavior!” Then, I’d go write about my feelings. . . .I now have a whole journal filled with my own codependent ramblings. I should take my journal and drop it off to be analyzed by a therapist.
No matter how crazy I may be, it’s still a true fact that The Wizard of Oz and other Narcissists is a very helpful and informative read. The writer of the book, Eleanor Payson, is a licensed marital and family therapist specializing in the treatment and support of codependents in their interactions with narcissistic individuals.
In the book, Payson outlines the narcissistic person’s worldview, and the various types of narcissistic folks you are likely to meet. I have been blessed with relationships with both the overt and the covert narcissist and I was particularly excited to read about their various behavioral manifestations.
Payson explores the different types of dysfunctional relationships a person can enter into with a narcissist. You can have a narcissist for a parent and they can mess you up real good. Or, perhaps you would enjoy having a narcissist as a boss or coworker. There’s always the irritating and heart breaking relationship that a codependent can enter into known as the “romantic” relationship. A relationship that further traumatizes a codependent individual when the divorce attorney said codependent eventually hires turns out to be narcissistic as well.
Bah! Narcissists are all over the place, irritating me.
Anyway, if you keep reading The Wizard of Oz and other Narcissists, you discover that a person can be so codependent that they come full circle and become narcissistic themselves. The childhood wounding that creates a narcissist is the same type of wounding that creates a codependent so really, the two disorders are just opposite sides of the same coin.
The most valuable part of the book is where Payson outlines the various steps a person can undertake to recover from their dysfunctional relationships. She describes a healing journey that she has seen unfold time and time again in her therapy practice, and she offers up various resources she recommends for treatment.
The Wizard of Oz and other Narcissist is an excellent book that I am glad I read. I feel less special knowing that my issues are not new or unique. It’s nice to pick up a book and be like, “Eureka! They know what I have and wait. . . . there is a cure!”
Remember folks, there’s nothing new on this earth and if you have a problem there’s most likely a book that’s been written about it. Stop being a jerk and go the library and work on your issues already.
Eleanor D. Payson, LMSW – Clinical, ACSW, LMFT
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