Love yourself in order to love others
Quote by Leo Buscaglia: “To love others you must first love yourself.”
Did Jesus Say I Must “Love Myself” First?
Ironically, it was when my ten-year marriage fizzled that I began the innermost process of self-discovery about love. While discouraged and saddened at the crumbling of our relationship, I began to explore love more. How had it fizzled? Why had we stopped loving each other, and what had happened to our love? I grew up in a rather patriarchal culture and family, which had trouble expressing or showing love. In fact, they showed love in unusual and unhealthy of ways. My mother used harsh language, put-downs, and comparisons to others to berate, embarrass, and ridicule me about my personal habits, lack of achievement in school, and potential career choices.
Did Jesus make loving yourself a third commandment?
Summary: Self-love, or loving yourself — Did Jesus say you must love yourself first? Many people think the Bible says they must love themselves before they can love others, but that is not what Jesus said.
He or she is the most wonderful person you have met. Everything seems perfect, nearly too good to be true. You are truly happy; your glow is visible from miles away. All of your friends love this new person in your life, aside from one or two skeptics. Regardless, you try to convince yourself that the naysayers are wrong. Time passes and the relationship has begun to plateau, even decline. Over time, the thoughts of those skeptical friends begin to resonate even more deeply.
This February, instead of focusing on finding someone else to love, be your own Valentine. Sometimes people seek relationships simply to avoid loneliness, or to gain self-validation. Once you have truly developed a sense of self-love, are content with what you already have, and are no longer looking for someone else to make you feel whole, these other needs fall away. It is then you can love truly someone just for the sake of loving them. You will no longer try to fulfill self-seeking needs, and you will be able to build a healthy relationship. You hear about it over and over again- someone goes through a breakup and ends up relapsing. If you never had a strong, positive self-image to begin with this becomes even more difficult and it can be hard to maintain sobriety through a breakup.