I thought it was just me review
I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame by Brené BrownAn affirming, revealing examination of the painful effects of shame—with new, powerful strategies that promise to transform a woman’s ability to love, parent, work, and build relationships.
Shame manifests itself in many ways. Addiction, perfectionism, fear and blame are just a few of the outward signs that Dr. Brené Brown discovered in her 6-year study of shame’s effects on women. While shame is generally thought of as an emotion sequestered in the shadows of our psyches, I Thought It Was Just Me demonstrates the ways in which it is actually present in the most mundane and visible aspects of our lives—from our mental and physical health and body image to our relationships with our partners, our kids, our friends, our money, and our work.
After talking to hundreds of women and therapists, Dr. Brown is able to illuminate the myriad shaming influences that dominate our culture and explain why we are all vulnerable to shame. We live in a culture that tells us we must reject our bodies, reject our authentic stories, and ultimately reject our true selves in order to fit in and be accepted.
Outlining an empowering new approach that dispels judgment and awakens us to the genuine acceptance of ourselves and others, I Thought It Was Just Me begins a crucial new dialogue of hope. Through potent personal narratives and examples from real women, Brown identifies and explains four key elements that allow women to transform their shame into courage, compassion and connection. Shame is a dark and sad place in which to live a life, keeping us from connecting fully to our loved ones and being the women we were meant to be. But learning how to understand shame’s influence and move through it toward full acceptance of ourselves and others takes away much of shame’s power to harm.
It’s not just you, you’re not alone, and if you fight the daily battle of feeling like you are—somehow—just not enough, you owe it to yourself to read this book and discover your infinite possibilities as a human being.
I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame
I started Daring Greatly first because it was, at that point, her newest work and because of the flashier title. The Roosevelt quote, which both names and starts the book, inspired me to the extent that I spent several nights attempting to turn it into a folk song. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly;. I got about halfway through the book before diving into another from my pile of binges and later, as happens when you leave the realm of education for the realm of experience, my life got busier and my list of unread books got longer. Immediately, I knew I had made the right choice:. This business, and the dream that birthed it, grew from my own disconnection.
I had previously commented in my review of The Gifts of Imperfection that I was reading her work in non-sequential order and how that can sometimes be disorienting. I had already read Daring Greatly and Rising Strong my review is split into part 1 and part 2. It was when Penguin bought the rights and released it with this title. Brown frequently describes herself as a shame researcher; that is, she seeks to understand shame. Shame is a self-sealing proposition.
Read in: 4 minutes Favorite quote from the author:. This week I went on a trip with my dad. We visited my godparents in Switzerland and our neighbors from over 20 years ago. There was only one problem: We were on the road for four full days. What followed was a mix of feelings. We all feel ashamed at times.
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Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough”
University of Houston researcher and social worker Brown believes shame underlies the spread of depression, anxiety, eating disorders and much more, and drawing on a study of hundreds of women, she constructs a method for overcoming it. Brown defines shame as "the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging" and believes its spread has been created by conflicting and competing expectations about who women should be. Brown quotes liberally from the women she has studied and, most enlighteningly, gives examples from her own experiences juggling motherhood, career and her social life. These revelations underscore her belief in the importance of exposing shame and, through empathy, helping oneself and others move past it. She underscores the need to practice critical awareness, i. Thus, Brown presents a spirited attack on the media and the beauty industry for presenting unrealistic images of women. Directing readers to focus on personal growth as opposed to unattainable perfection, Brown urges them to practice shame-resilience skills and teach them to their children.