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How to Survive in an Unhappy Marriage and Thrive
These are the signs that you might be in a loveless marriage. Plus, tips on what to do if you're interested in trying to restore it. Many of my patients who suffer from depression claim they're constantly fatigued, while those who have anxiety report insomnia. I even treated one middle aged woman who carried such anger towards her husband that she often felt her skin was crawling with ants. In his over 40 years of research, Dr. John Gottman—psychological researcher and author The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work — found that couples in lasting relationships have five positive interactions for every negative one.
Making the decision to leave a marriage is scary: There's often a deep fear of being alone, not to mention the possibility of an unknown future. So many stick with mediocrity, settling for low-level pain and dissatisfaction instead. But that's not your best bet: "Staying in a seriously unhappy marriage can have long-term effects on our mental and emotional health," says Carrie Cole, a couples therapist and Master Certified Gottman Therapist by the Gottman Institute. Research shows that people in bad marriages usually have low self-esteem, struggle with anxiety and depression, and have a higher rate of illness than those who don't. People feel sad and grieve when they decide to let go — but people who divorce do recover emotionally, and Cole says most find new relationships. In fact, "one statistic reported that 85 percent of those who divorce remarry within five years," she says. If any these signs hit home for you, it's time to take a hard look at whether this is a marriage you want to stay in.
And even worse, at times, you may convince yourself that all relationships are doomed to mediocrity and self-satisfaction. Many of us lead our lives this way, believing that love and marriage is nothing but a support system where you have someone to rely on, for emergencies and family gatherings. A happy, loving marriage can give you a lot more. It can give you a more complete life. An unhappy marriage is the slow accumulation of annoyances, pain, bitterness, ego and miscommunication that burdens the romance.
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