Why am i not satisfied with my relationship
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Signs You're Staying in the Wrong Relationship // Amy Young
12 Signs You're Unhappy In Your Relationship
It's late one night and, in your boredom, you're just sitting there scrolling through social media. Picture after picture involves two happy faces canoodling or engaging in some other equally adorable activity and, suddenly, your stomach goes cold. Sure, you can remember the days when you were single and images like this rattled your cage but why are you feeling so sad and wistful if you are blissfully coupled up? Could it be that, despite your best efforts, you aren't actually happy in your relationship? When addressing concerns like this with my psychology students and clients, I always make an effort to remind them that there is a difference between what people share online and what their lives are truly like. No one wants others to know that their relationship has hit a rough patch. It's not fair, therefore, to compare our realities with someone else's well-crafted public image.
I was going out with a wonderful man. He was generous and caring and had a great sense of humor. He treated me well and attended to my every need. Every time a fear surfaced about how quickly things were moving, I smoothed it over with a shrug or a hug or a reminder of how lucky I was to have found someone with whom to share my life. My logical mind told me that he was perfect, that I was self-sabotaging, and that I was afraid of commitment. Yet another part of me questioned the depth of my feelings for him. I was exhausted.
You avoid spending time with them
As humans, and as social creatures, we constantly crave for social, physical and sexual intimacy all the time. And the thought of being lonely makes us feel terrible, especially when all our friends are hitched with a seemingly perfect somebody. And the best part here is that you have a choice, an option to seek happiness and live a happy life, or tie yourself down to a rock that you know will eventually sink to the bottom and drag you with it. Why do you put up with someone who treats you disrespectfully and takes you for granted when you could have a much better life, without this person or with someone a lot better? You stick around with your lover, in the constant hope that you may eventually run into someone better someday. Life is too short to fill it up with martyrdom and unhappiness for a lost cause, and you need to remember that. You feel guilty for even thinking of leaving your lover and walking away from them.
If there are any significant changes, discuss them with your partner to determine what's behind them. Marriage is a big job. Don't say 'We'll figure it out later. However, doing everything together can create staleness in the relationship and is a great recipe for both partners to get sick of each other. These are major indicators of unhappiness.