How to deal with immature parents
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. GibsonIf you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.
In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life.
Discover the four types of difficult parents:
The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety
The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone
The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting
The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory
Parents Who Drive You Crazy: Four Steps for Handling Emotionally Immature Parents
You may have trouble setting limits and expressing your feelings. And you may even be more susceptible to other emotionally immature people as you establish adult relationships. In addition, as your parents become older, they may still treat your emotions with mockery and contempt, be dismissive and discounting of your reality, and try to control and diminish your sense of emotional autonomy and freedom of thought. In short, EIs can be self-absorbed, inconsistent, and contradictory. So, how can you recover from their toxic behavior? Drawing on the success of her popular self-help book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents , author Lindsay Gibson offers yet another essential resource.
As a child and adolescent therapist who frequently works with biological, adoptive, and foster families, I see this often in family sessions. These parents often struggle with proper expression of emotions and poor attachment to their own parental figure.
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Emotionally immaturity parents: 4 types
Do you ever feel like the mature one in your relationship with your parents? If so, you are like countless others who are hurt and frustrated by their emotionally immature parents. It is difficult to deal with parents who have not developed enough empathy to care sufficiently about the feelings of others. These immature parents focus on their own interests to the point where they make their children feel inadequate, unseen, and chronically guilty. While the emotionally immature parent may act like a normal adult in the outside world, their self-involved and controlling behavior comes out full force at home. They ignore their children's emotional needs because they are focused on their own consuming desires for attention and control.
What if a parent is emotionally immature? Forcing the child to become the parent in the relationship? There are those who are needy and whose moods fluctuate. Or responsible for calming them down and their stability. Or there are those who are driven, always busy getting things done. They have all the answers.
The holidays can be a joyous time. You see the highlights on social media—all those happy family reunions. But inside, you cringe. Dysfunctional family relationships, especially those with parents, can sour any occasion. To be sure, no family is perfect. What you see on social media is a highlight reel.