How to teach people to treat you with respect
Quote by Oprah Winfrey: “You teach people how to treat you.”
How Are You Teaching People to Treat You? 5 Steps to Help You Get It Right
Some kinds of treatment are a single event. A company that promised to phone you regarding an interview never did. Other kinds of treatment are recurring. They happen to us on a regular basis. Oftentimes the treatment comes from the same people.
This blog is for the twenty-somethings who are seeking purpose and pioneering in positivity in this busy world while also enjoying and growing from life experiences along the way. Look, I really used to be someone who just took what people dished out for me. I honestly was not the best comeback queen, and for a long time, I was afraid to even stick up for myself within my family dynamics. I grew up in an African household where children were taught to be seen and not heard. Now, when it came to friendship, I was a sucker.
We've all heard the famous Maya Angelou quote, "Believe people the first time that they show you who they are. What is your self-care or lack thereof telling people about how you treat yourself and from that how they should treat you? The Law of Attraction which is a body of work made famous by author Rhonda Byrne through her international best-seller The Secret is the name given to the belief that "like attracts like" and that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, one can bring about positive or negative results. It also applies to the "who" we have around us. If you have a lot of negative, unhealthy, broken people around you, it's time for you to look at you. As hard as that pill can be to swallow, we do ourselves a great disservice when we refuse to examine what we are doing to "attract" these kinds of people into our most sacred spaces.
I was a great fan of the late Wayne W., But what does this really mean? What does it actually look like?
What do people want out of work? If that sounds like you, how can you increase the respect you get each day at work? It turns out that there are specific habits you can cultivate that allow you to train the people you work with to treat you respectfully each day. Implement a few, take inspiration from the others, and you'll likely see dividends quickly. You won't get the recognition and respect you deserve unless you make your voice heard. We start with this--training yourself to speak up--because every other habit on this list depends on your deciding that you are worthy of respect to begin with. So, set the tone for respectful relationships: It's why society developed polite norms to begin with.
About three months ago I was consulting with a retail organization and the VP of Stores asked me to visit with him. I missed being in the field, with customers and the hard working people who drive the business. So happy to do it. Once traveling with these emerging leaders it was clear that the major impediment they were having was similar in both cases — and it was that they were close to their Store Manager team. The issue was that they needed to guide their people in how to treat them in their new role.